Being a kid – you loved to show off your new shoes, pencils and anything. It didn’t mattered if you were happy to have those for the utility – but it was a great way to be cool. So the new factor has moulded us – you like to show off the new things because it gives you higher status.
And slowly you start the journey of accumulating things which aren’t of much use to you. Rather it is a showcase for others – it exists only for showing it to others.
Sometimes in the process – you overdo it and regret it. Or others follow the same trend and there is a constant pulling of the strings to be on the top of status role.
Now that you are adult – you believe totally different things, there is morality, rationality and logic in play. Yet, our behavior gets in the door and unknowingly you play the same old status role – of showing off. But the question is – can you use this trait to your advantage, let’s find out.
Once you knew swimming then the sky or ground is the limit – you start to experiment with different tricks which you can do. Primarily to impress others – and secondarily because it is a cool thing to do and enjoyable too.
So I did the same – since I am part Aquaman – I can hold my breath for about 1 minute – I would challenge my friends to hold the breath underwater. Naturally I would win – and that’s why I would challenge them.
This is kinda my first trick – another was to swim breadth of the swimming pool – all while holding the breath. It is fair to say my friends were in awe and surprise – I loved their reaction. And thus my first trick was successful – but then they started challenging me on tricks at which they were great,
And I started losing. And as you have guessed – almost no one likes losing and I am no different. So, I had to figure something out.
Overtime you realize there is no way you can win the short term game of showing off and status role – you can win them but there is a constant struggle. The alternative is do things for self and if it impresses someone then it should be only secondary.
Slowly I started diving, touching the ground and doing poses in the the depth of water – all the tricks I learnt were one at a time. But I did it only because it made me feel nice. Not because she did and I wanted to copy to show her I am capable.
Instead I did it because it was something exciting for me. And boy oh boy, doing swimming tricks has now become a ritual for me – I hope it does for you too.