Sometimes the way you say things sets the tone – and mentally you get prepared for the same thing. So it becomes necessary to think when you say certain things – the kind of signal you give.
For example – when you start your day – saying thing sets the tone for the day. And when you get angry later in the day – you get reminded of the calmness you stated in the morning. It is almost magical that simply stating how you signal yourself can get you so far.
Let me take swimming on weekend as an example – my friend said let’s swim on coming weekend. I replied, I am going to swim on coming weekend no matter what. By doing this I set the tone and attitude for my future behavior.
Turns out my friend didn’t showed up. Now, I had to 2 option either to swim alone or go home. But my voice echoed in my brain that no matter what I am going to swim. And that’s what I did.
If I would have said, I will swim along with you then the signal would be of a handicap one. Because in this statement my actions are dependent on the success of someone else’s success. Nothing wrong in that – but you should be aware how this is going to turn out.
This handicap moment happens a lot. Many times your friend will blackmail you to back out so they can have company.
You can back out once or twice. But if you back out every time then swimming or whatever you want to do isn’t your priority. Then why even try – first step is to be clear of your priorities. This will help you make better decisions and also help in making strong signals.
If this idea sounds silly to you then perhaps it will become one. But if you let it develop and practice this daily then you will see its true power. It is the power of doing things daily and practicing the effect.
Whenever you want to accomplish something – state how you want the things to go. Also what will you do if things go wrong. This will set the mode in your brain. It is similar to the strategy astronauts use. When there comes an emergency – you aren’t allowed to think in the moment. Because chances are you will take the wrong decision.
Instead you do what you have decided when you were full of energy, focused and full of neurons. Go accomplish…