When you want someone to hold your hand it becomes necessary that you trust them. Because in any relationship you need to give your 100 percent. If you hold even 1 percent then are you even trying.
Also there needs to be understanding. Getting angry is the most exposed human emotions. But when you are in relationship, you need to understand the situations and let the negative things subside. Because you value the connection more than proving someone that you are right.
Slowly as you progress in the relationship, you need some ground rules on which both of you agree. And follow that most of the times. And that’s how you build a great and lasting connection.
The same is true for swimming. If you have a swimming buddy then first step is to set some ground rules.
So what exactly is ground rule? Simply put it is some outcomes of scenarios which are already decided. And you need to follow that unless there is a real emergency like death, huge amount of money loss or something similar.
It is how Astronauts do amazing stuff in space. They don’t think on the spot and solve problems. On the contrary they have already practiced and planned numerous scenarios. And it has been locked in their memory. So when a real situation arises, they follow the planned decision.
Doing things in this fashion helps in avoiding conflict which might happen later. Because all the conflict have been already resolved.
Show And Learn
Here is the ground rule me and my buddy follow for a swimming routine:
- Swimming days are Monday, Tuesday and Friday
- Swimming on Friday is compulsory
- Swimming on Monday and Tuesday is bound by time 1830 hours
- If that time is passed and you are stuck in work then you skip swimming
- But the other person is free to go swimming. Indeed she is encouraged to go alone
I hope this guides you to make your own ground rule. Go make something and make it awesome.