Fear is a big thing which can break or make you. It is something which is instilled in your brain from childhood.
From the very moment of birth, people around you are telling to you fear. Because it helps in bringing order and discipline in kids. Sometimes your parents tell you to not go out of home because someone will kidnap you.
Other times, they give you the fear of God if you intend to do something bad like stealing.
Also good habits like sharing, care and loving are taught with fear of God, parents and teachers. Do this because God sees everything and you don’t want to be a bad kid.
The sad thing is some of the fear runs deep when you become adult.
When you go to learn swimming, the first thing that runs through your mind is fear. Sometimes it is fear of drowning, not being able to swim or fear of hurting yourself.
And that keeps us from trying things which seems uncomfortable. For many people they just are fearful of new things – they don’t have anything concrete to fear upon. But when asked they just fear the unknown in any situation.
Fear keeps you from accomplishing new things and as such is not a good thing to have.
Yes, the fear which results from real danger is okay. If you are thrown in front of lion then fear is good for you.
But if you are in a gymnastics class with padding to protect you on the ground then fear won’t help you. Instead being brave helps you because that is the only best alternative.
My fear of swimming has been jumping into the water straight down – vertically.
It sends a signal down my spine, a chilling one which makes me wonder whether can I…
I know swimming, water inherently won’t hurt you from such a height and there are lifeguards to help you if something goes wrong. And still with so much comfort zone there is a fear.
And it is bad because this fear is not helping me like in case of a lion. It is doing the opposite – making me accomplish one less thing.
And you can draw parallel in your life on many things.
The solution as Seth Godin says is to dance with fear. Because there is no alternative. Go face your fear and make something.